Stress

[Kiki]

http://www.greatdanepro.com/Chiquitita/index.ht --this is nice

[Padiham Lass]

Originally Posted by terminator

My advice to anybody reading this thread? accept that there could be a time in your life when? you might suffer worry and anxiety for a justifiable reason. Here is the key, as I see it, do not allow these negative thoughts to take over your daily life.You need to address what? is causing this anxiety? am I doing something in my life that I could change? perhaps by removing the cause of your anxiety, you might start to understand why? you feel the way you do.

The last 2 weeks has been extemely stressful, since my husband of 26 years announced that he wants to call it a day. My emotions have been all over the place, but mostly down, and sleep is a distant memory.

However, the best therapy so far has been talking to other people, especially my husband, not that it's made any difference to how he feels, but by airing my negative thoughts and emotions, I am able to have some moments of peace, and allow some positive thoughts back into my life.

I know that it's early days yet, and that I will have more stress to deal with in the coming months, I just have to try and stay positive.

[Col.Kurtz]

Sorry to hear that Padiham Lass, hope things get better for you soon.

[WillowTheWhisp]

Oh Padiham Lass I do feel for you. I have never been through that experience myself but I have a friend and a family member who has and I know the mixed range of emotions that go along with it. There will be a whole heap of new things to come to terms with but if you can continue to feel positive it does help to get through it.

I know it's a different situation but when my first husband died I think I got through it all because I was so angry with the hospital over the way they treated (or didn't treat) him that the adrenalin off that kept me going.

My friend said what helped her was realising that he was the one with the problem not her and that she wasn't failing him in some way but he had failed her. Prior to that she'd been soul searching and asking herself where she went wrong and what could she have done to keep him. Once she decided it was him who was lacking she decided she didn't want to keep him after all and was proud of herself for being able to make that decision.

[glad i left]

I moved to canada and now i have no stress whatsoever, our neighbours are moose coyotes and gophers theres virtually no crime and people leave there doors unlocked .its a way more laid back lifestyle where we can relax on our deck or go out too the lake on the boat and watch the sunset on the lake.we can see the northern lights dancing across the sky too and everything is just peaceful nothing to get stressed about no traffic jams no massive lineups at the tills in shops,so im glad we left the rat race.

[Alex7201]

Originally Posted by glad i left

I moved to canada and now i have no stress whatsoever, our neighbours are moose coyotes and gophers theres virtually no crime and people leave there doors unlocked .its a way more laid back lifestyle where we can relax on our deck or go out too the lake on the boat and watch the sunset on the lake.we can see the northern lights dancing across the sky too and everything is just peaceful nothing to get stressed about no traffic jams no massive lineups at the tills in shops,so im glad we left the rat race.

So there we have it... move to canada to beat stress.. Of course you realise now that the entire stressed out population of England will be moving to your next door.

I've found I got/stressed at work. Not 'real' stress but general stress. Once it was badish though with chest pains and such but mostly it was normal (yet horrible) stress. I've found having stuff to do outside of work helps me alot. I stop focusing on stuff I HAVE to do and can now see stuff I WANT to do.

[Alex7201]

In fact... I'm currently on a stress at how slow my computer is being. I suspect its something to do with this forced windows upgrade I'm being made to have.
I would write them an email explaining the problems I'm having and asking for help but I think I'll have more luck getting through to them if I write a short message on a yellow "post it" note and stick it onto my monitor. *sigh*

[Padiham Lass]

Originally Posted by WillowTheWhisp

My friend said what helped her was realising that he was the one with the problem not her and that she wasn't failing him in some way but he had failed her. Prior to that she'd been soul searching and asking herself where she went wrong and what could she have done to keep him. Once she decided it was him who was lacking she decided she didn't want to keep him after all and was proud of herself for being able to make that decision.

Your friends advice makes a lot of sense to me at the moment.

[WillowTheWhisp]

Canada sounds wonderful.

I would love to love somewhere so peaceful and calm. Failing that I'd really love to live in Morecambe, overlooking the bay. We stayed in a B&B there last weekend and the view was fantastic. We were right on the top floor with a panorama of the bay and Lakeland hills.

[glad i left]

Originally Posted by WillowTheWhisp

Canada sounds wonderful.

I would love to love somewhere so peaceful and calm. Failing that I'd really love to live in Morecambe, overlooking the bay. We stayed in a B&B there last weekend and the view was fantastic. We were right on the top floor with a panorama of the bay and Lakeland hills.

That sounds a nice place you stayed in Morecambe with a good view.we stayed in Jasper in the rockies its gorgeous our room was facing a crystal blue river and the mountains ,very peacefull but you have too watch out for grizzly bears it could put your blood pressure up a little.

[WillowTheWhisp]

Glad to say that there is no chance of any bears in Morecambe.

[Kiki]

I am de-stressing here in the Midlands over the weekend! Hope that everyone there in Burnley and my friends on here are ok? Our computer is being fixed so thats why you havent heard from me for ages,so look outi shall be catching up with you all next week to see whats new!