As this is my first Blog I hope you will bear with me. Life at the moment is pretty rough with all that is going on. My hubby has been battling cancer for quite a while now and it does get you down. He had his first op in 1992 although I wasn't told he had cancer of the bowel (they didn't have to tell me then). He had his second op in 2005 again for bowel cancer. He was offered chemo after the op but the chances of it being benefical were 1in20 so he refused. I know a lot of people will find it hard to understand why he refused treatment but he had been so ill before the op and was just beginning to feel more like his old self that he didn't want a treatment that was going to make him ill again plus the odds were pretty low in his favour.
Twelve months after the op he was booked in for a scan as is the norm. This showed that the cancer had gone to his left lung. He had an op to remove it last December and in January we went to see the oncologist who was very abrupt with him and basically talked him out of having chemo much to my disgust. He was promised three monthly scans which he accepted.
Anyway the scans revealed that the cancer had travelled to his right lung. It is still classed as bowel cancer because rather than lung cancers these are cells that have resulted from his original bowel op. He was then offered six lots of chemo over twelve weeks which he has had.
He had a scan last Monday and if the chemo hasn't helped he will hopefully be offered a stronger dose. We are going for the results tomorrow so will let you know how we get on. Hope this hasn't bored you to much but it does help to get it off my chest!!
Twelve months after the op he was booked in for a scan as is the norm. This showed that the cancer had gone to his left lung. He had an op to remove it last December and in January we went to see the oncologist who was very abrupt with him and basically talked him out of having chemo much to my disgust. He was promised three monthly scans which he accepted.
Anyway the scans revealed that the cancer had travelled to his right lung. It is still classed as bowel cancer because rather than lung cancers these are cells that have resulted from his original bowel op. He was then offered six lots of chemo over twelve weeks which he has had.
He had a scan last Monday and if the chemo hasn't helped he will hopefully be offered a stronger dose. We are going for the results tomorrow so will let you know how we get on. Hope this hasn't bored you to much but it does help to get it off my chest!!
Not A Very Good Start
Posted 19-11-07 at 19:56 by bernie
Well don't know what went wrong but I did a blog entry earlier and can't get it onto the site
Knowing me I have pressed the wrong button somewhere. Anyway we will have to wait and see if you ever get to read it. It basically told you the history of my hubbies battle with cancer, which I won't go into again for chance I manage to get the original entry onto the site. Suffice to say that tomorrow is results day letting us know if the chemo has worked or if he needs any more. I will leave it at that for now and hopefully will have good news to post tomorrow.
Knowing me I have pressed the wrong button somewhere. Anyway we will have to wait and see if you ever get to read it. It basically told you the history of my hubbies battle with cancer, which I won't go into again for chance I manage to get the original entry onto the site. Suffice to say that tomorrow is results day letting us know if the chemo has worked or if he needs any more. I will leave it at that for now and hopefully will have good news to post tomorrow.
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Bernie, your blog isn't boring, it isn'r whinging, it isn't self pitying.
It just tells, and briefly too, of your ongoing struggle.
My thoughts are with you and Ian......and I hope that you can both be strong for one another.
I know what it is like dealing with chronic illness in the family.......your man is the one with the illness, but all the family are suffering, in one way or another. Coping is getting through each day in whatever way you can. Off loading your thoughts and feelings on here might be a good thing.......at least you can sound off and get things off your chest.Posted 19-11-07 at 20:17 by Magpi 47
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Thanks for that it will be nice to get things off my chest to sympathetic listeners, I know my family are only at the end of the phone and would be here like a shot if I asked and they do come even when I don't say anything. I often think they are worried enough without seeing me in a state, I am always mindful that mum is im her late seventies and hasn't had the easiest of lifes so don't like to burden her to much.Posted 19-11-07 at 20:26 by bernie - Must have posted both lots together, don't ask I seem to have a jinx!!!Posted 19-11-07 at 20:43 by bernie
- All of them are coping too. And I don't think I would be far off the mark if I said they were all scared too.
All of you need support.All of you need someone to be there for you. You need the close network of friends, family and professionals. I hope you are getting all you really need.Posted 19-11-07 at 20:45 by Magpi 47 - I don't think Ian's lads realise the gravity of it all, his sister is in Australia so it is down to me. We are coping without outside help for now but I've no doubt we will need more in the future.Posted 19-11-07 at 20:53 by bernie
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I think Maggie has said it all, my thoughts are with you both!
As are all the best wishes i can send to you at this time!Posted 19-11-07 at 23:16 by Kiki - Meant Mags!Posted 19-11-07 at 23:18 by Kiki
- Thanks will let you know how things go.Posted 19-11-07 at 23:42 by bernie
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Just keep on going Bernie,,, live a day at a time....
i was just looking for the big hug smiley but its not on blogs,xPosted 20-11-07 at 01:28 by grannyclaret - We are all here for you to talk to if you ever need an ear (or should that be a screen) to talk to. Hopeeverything goes well for you and your husband. My thoughts are with you all.Posted 20-11-07 at 01:28 by Mercury
